BRITISH GENTLEMEN

I guess you can tell by now I have a thing for men with accents. British guy had me at hello. He was very direct in his first email which said simply, "I want to meet you". I liked his polite and courteous speech on the phone and the way he agreed that talking in person would be a much more effective way of moving forward. The wine bar which he chose for our meeting was very crowded when we arrived, and he asked if I would go across the street to a quiet restaurant and have dinner with him instead. I agreed, even though I knew this would be our last date. No chemistry at all, but a very nice and proper gentleman. He had recently moved to this area within the last 2 months, and he was so ambivalent about whether he would stay or move on, that I realized he was just looking for a brief fling. I let him know in a nice way that I wasn't interested in a short-term romance with benefits. In any case, we had a pleasant dinner and a nice walk afterwards. I did my usual interview with him, asking him about his best and worst experiences, and he had mostly disappointing stories to tell. He was impressed that I was already on date #12 after just a few weeks' time; he had been online for 2 months and I was only date #4 for him. For the first time during this process, I caught a glimpse of what men go through in this game and I feel a lot more sympathetic towards them and much less defensive about myself. I realized that we are all just people, trying to be a little more connected and a little less alone in this world. I wish I could devise a new kind of dating technique that would ease this ordeal for all concerned. It would be nice to invent a system for people to meet where we didn't have to feel so vulnerable, but it seems that in order to make yourself available to love, there needs to be a certain amount of risk. Any ideas on how to get through the dating scene while keeping a fragile self esteem intact?wasyclick.blogspot.com